Archives for March 2013

10 Things You Don’t Say to Your Kids but Should

This article is about 10 things you probably don’t say to your adult kids but you should.
Take a positive spin
The shift from being the parent to becoming a grandparent takes a major adjustment most of us never anticipate.  It’s so easy to offer advice based on our years of  experience raising children. It’s so easy to see what our adult children don’t. But we can get so focused on giving advice and telling them what they’re doing wrong, that we forget to tell them what they’re doing right.  There’s nothing like positive reinforcement.
Here are ten things to say to your adult children that will support them as they grow into the role of parent, just as you adjust to being the grandparent.
    • I respect how you’re raising your kids.

      You may not do things the way I did, but it’s a different world today, especially given the state of the economy and all the pressures on young families. (Now could you please stop making fun of me for not being able to buckle the kids into their carseat or collapse the stroller)


      Please, let me do the dishes!

      Or the laundry! Or change the baby’s diaper, then make dinner! I’m here to help!

      Don’t worry; you’re wonderful parents.

      We all make mistakes sometimes—as I know only too well. So what if you let your daughter eat cupcakes for dinner every now and then? There were times when I let you run barefoot in the freezing cold and eat ice cream for breakfast—and you should have heard my mother! (And, true story, once I put fresh kibble in my son’s bowl in an attempt to cure his habit of eating out of the dog’s dish. It worked.)

5 Questions to Ask Your Future Son-in-law by Deborah Thompson

This article gives us five questions to ask your future son-in-law to see if he is the right son-in-law.

John Croyle is known as the star football player from the University of Alabama who gave up a lucrative NFL career opportunity to open the Big Oak Ranch — a place for abandoned, abused and neglected children.

On a recent visit to both the boys and girls ranches, I had the opportunity to talk with John. He is full of wit and wisdom and shared these five questions he has posed to numerous young men through the years who asked for his blessing to marry one of the young women at the ranch.

1. Are you going to take care of my daughter financially? I want you to work hard, provide for her and your family, and never use money as a weapon. Many divorces are a result of money issues. She doesn’t have to live in a Taj Mahal, but she should have a safe and comfortable home, clothing and food.

2. Are you going to take care of her mentally? I know how smart she is right now, and you should too. I want her to be smarter after living with you than she is now. You should challenger her mentally, encourage her, build her up, help her to achieve her goals, and assist her in growing closer to God in wisdom and knowledge.