Archives for September 2015

No Knead Dinner Rolls by Kathryn Solesbee

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This is a favorite rolls recipe we use at Thanksgiving and for special occasions. This easy recipe came from my aunt Kathryn who is a wonderful cook. This makes a large quantity.    I usually divide it in half.

6 cups warm water

1 oz. dry yeast

5 lbs self-rising White Lily Flour

1 cup sugar

2 cups shortening, melted

Dissolve yeast in warm water. Stir flour and sugar together. Add shortening to yeast water. Pour into flour and mix well. Let dough rise in bowl about 20 minutes. Turn out onto floured surface and roll out 1/2 inch thick. Cut with two-inch biscuit cutter and shape as desired. Brush with melted butter. Let proof in a warm place until double in size. Bake in a pre-heated oven at 425 degrees for 12-15 minutes or until brown. Makes about eight dozen rolls. These are so good. Enjoy

Pitching Confidence

 

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Do you throw your confidence out the window some days? Confidence is our courage and boldness we have when we feel like we can depend on our abilities or someone else’s. We sometimes start our days with confidence and then something happens and we throw it away or give away our confidence. The writer to Hebrews says “So don’t throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you need endurance, so that after you have done God’s will, you may receive what was promised.” (Hebrews 10:35-36)

What do you have confidence in? Do you have confidence in being a mom? The confidence can quickly fad when being a mom becomes overwhelming or you can’t be good at everything a mom is expected to do. It totally disappears when a teenager or adult children tell you how much of a failure you are.

Do you have confidence in being a wife? The confidence is pretty high in the honeymoon time. What happens to your courage when money is tight? The confidence will take a nose drive with marriage difficulty. Confidence may go in the trash with a burned dinner.

Do you have confidence at church? Do you work hard at pleasing? Where is your confidence when people do not like the  work you are doing? Critical words can send our boldness to a defeated level. Actions can speak louder than words. Our courage will be diminished when our support for our project disappears.

Do you have confidence in being a mother-in-law? Is our confidence in our service, gifts or our words? Our offers can be turned down or not liked. Our gifts can not be accepted or thrown away. Our words can not come out right.

Our confidence is not to be derived from how well people think we do as a mom, wife, church worker or mother-in-law. We are not to have our courage in what people say even through I enjoy that. Our courage and boldness comes from our faith. When we have faith in the testimony of Jesus Christ, our confidence will be in what God can do through us as a mom, wife, church worker or mother-in-law. God rewards us with peace, joy and power when we have confidence in what He can do and will do in us.

When we do not throw away our confidence in what God can do through us, we develop endurance. On any role in our life, it is easy to cut and run. It is easy to quit when we have failed or have been told we are a failure. God says if we keep our confidence, we will build endurance to do His will. What would have devastated me as a young wife or mom, is not as big of a deal now. I have built up endurance and have learned to enjoy the rewards that come from God. Many times I have enjoyed peace when my confidence could not be in myself but only in Him. I have failed miserably so many times. My confidence had to be in my faith and not in myself.

We can have confidence that when we have kept the faith and endured through our many roles as women, we will reap the rewards of peace, joy and patience through it all.

 

Easy Banana Pudding

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Easy Banana Pudding

2-large box Vanilla instant pudding

5 cups of milk

3/4 cup of Sour cream

1-12 oz. Cool whip

1 Box of Vanilla Wafers

6-8 Bananas

Mix pudding and milk, fold in sour cream and cool whip

Layer wafers, bananas and pudding and repeat

Sprinkle with wafer crumbs on top.

Enjoy

Facts and Fictions of Extended Families

Fact or Fiction

There are facts and fictions of Extended Families

Fiction: After marriage of your son or daughter, your relationship with them will remain the same as it was before marriage.

Fact: In the siblings eyes, being a girlfriend or boyfriend maybe the same as being a wife or husband. Their relationship may not change. For the parents walking into the wedding is the first of many steps we will take toward becoming the extended family of our daughter or son. Extended family is an extension of your daughter or son’s newly forming family. There will be many emotional pains as you move from parents to in-laws. Having a healthy relationship with your adult children may take work, but in time it can prove to be a fulfilling and loving connection.

 

Fiction: Once your son or daughter are married, as parents we will be free to continue to give advice.

Fact: Marriage is about leaving and cleaving. Some children have already left and this is easier on them. In the first few years of marriage most children want to be free to make their own decisions and mistakes without the advice from parents. As parents we struggle with the giving of advice especially with lifetime mistakes on the horizon. It is always a sign of maturity on both sides when adult children can ask for advice and parents can leave it with them to choose to take it or not. Children need to be wise enough to seek wisdom on important decisions and parents need to be patience enough to allow children the choice.

 

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Fiction: Even if you had a bad relationship with your daughter-in-law or son-in-law before marriage, everybody will just work together to love each other after marriage.

Fact: Love and hate are a choice. We choose to forgive or not. Love one another means for everyone. Some family members may never be easy to love but we still make the choice to do so. If the relationship was bad before the wedding, a wedding date won’t change anything. We make choices as to who we think is worthy of our love. Not everyone will make the choice to show love.  We can help change our attitude toward them by passing on the love that Christ has shown us. We can choose to pass on the love, forgiveness and patience that Christ shows us each day. This goes a long way toward peace in the relationship and peace with us and God.

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Fiction:  The wedding is over and I am done with dealing with the in-laws.

Fact: We sometimes act like in-laws are just acquaintances or annoyances. When they enter a family or your family, they are a part of the family. When you are going to see your son or daughter, you will probably see them. During the year, there will be visits, holidays and  family reunions. Avoidance does not draw the family together but further apart. Yes, there may be awkward moments but for the sake of the relationship with your children, in-laws and the family the effort is important. The wedding is the start of a change in your family. There will be many changes over the years that are unexpected and not predictable. Sometimes daughters-in-law that you start out with a bad relationship with in up moving in with you. There are many blessings that God gives you when you make a effort. Relationships sometimes improve. Daughters-in-law  give you precious grandchildren. God has used in-laws to mold me into the woman He wants me to be. So just jump on into the relationship after the wedding, God has blessings to give you.

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Fiction:  Mothers-in-law  are stereotyped as meddling, annoying and complaining women. Nothing I do will help my image to my daughter-in-law or son-in-law.

Fact: Mothers-in-law do get a bad rap. American journalist Walter Lippman said the word stereotype is a picture in our head. He said, “Whether right or wrong, imagination is shaped by the pictures seen.” The pictures lead to stereotypes that maybe hard to change. Mother-in-law is a stereotype that has a negative image such as nagging, meddling, and controlling. All in-laws have pictures in their head of what a mother-in-law should be. Usually this is shaped by the experience they had growing up with an in-law. When we use stereotypes, we may make a lot of assumptions on the basis of very little evidence of the person.

God’s Word is very clear on our actions. We are to love each other. We are to be patient and kind to each other. I Cor. 13:7 tells us “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Love supports the relationship even when it is hard to. Love is patient even during hurt. Love believes in what God can do in the relationship through you. Love hopes for the best in every part of the relationship. We show tolerance even when we do not feel like it. We continue to bear, believe, hope and endure during all in-law relationships because God is working in all of our in-law relationship where they are great or need improvement.

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