Archives for June 2016

Forgiveness in Relationships

In our relationships we are in, maybe the most challenging part is learning to forgive each other. We quickly realize offering forgiveness isn’t always easy. We learn early on that forgiveness is a choice. This verse reminds us of what we are to do but also of who did it first. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13). This verse says we are to bear and forgive because the Lord forgave, loved and then gave. Too many times in relationships we bear with each other from afar and we avoid one another instead of bearing and forgiving. When we reach sticky or hurtful situations in relationships, we run. By Christ example, instead of running He loved and gave. Nancy DeMoss says, “When we extend to others the forgiveness that Christ extended to us on the cross, we reflect the mercy and grace of God to a world that desperately needs to be forgiven.” When we bear and forgive then our relationships grow. We grow. For growth we have to be Christ like and love, bear and forgive. Choosing forgiveness is choosing Christ’s example. Choosing forgiveness is choosing freedom. Choosing forgiveness is choosing growth. In relationships forgiveness is the key. It is the key for the relationship. It is the key for you.

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My Mother-in-law and How She Shows Me Unconditional Love by Michelle Dicken

One of the best things that happened to me a few days ago, on my birthday, was receiving a birthday card from my Mother-in-law.  Most years she forgets to send out cards so I’m ALWAYS honored when I go to the mailbox and see her handwriting on the outside of an envelope.  I’ve got to give her credit though because she’s a whole lot better about remembering than I am!  I’m ashamed to admit that I truly suck at making a day special for my loved ones.  The people living in my house reap the rewards but those that don’t live here rarely get remembered.

The point of the post isn’t to talk about remembering though.  It’s to tell you how I’ve been SO blessed by my husband’s family.  You all know by now, what MY family is like.  I don’t know what it’s like to have a close family or what it’s like to truly be loved by a family.  I know what it’s like to be “judged” and “used” by my family.  It was a shock when I was shown unconditional love by a family who didn’t have to show me love.

First of all, I want to tell you what the card said from my Mother-in-law…

“Any woman can be a daughter-in-law.

But it takes a certain spirit,

an openness,and generosity of heart

to make the “in-law” part

drop away,

leaving that comfortable word


You’re a caring person…

loving wife…

giving mother…

and your presence

in the life of our family

is simply a gift.  ”