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Cinnamon Rolls

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Years ago a local newspaper did a story on my aunt Kathryn Solesbee. She is a marvelous southern cook. She has co-owned two restaurants and worked at others. I cut her bread recipes out of the paper and started making homemade cinnamon rolls and dinner rolls for Thanksgiving and Christmas. They are a special treat for my family.

Favorite Recipes from my aunt Kathryn

Cinnamon Rolls

1 cup milk

1/4 cup sugar

1/4 cup butter

1 pkg. yeast

1 egg, beaten

3 to 3 1/2 cups of flour

 

Directions

Scald milk. Stir in sugar and butter. Let cool until lukewarm.

Add yeast and let dissolve. Add beaten eggs and flour to make a soft dough.

Cover and refrigerate overnight. Cold dough rolls easier.

Turn out onto floured surface and roll into a rectange. Brush with melted butter.

Spread with brown sugar and cinnamon. Roll up and slice 1/2 inch pieces and

place on greased pan about 1/2 apart. Let rise until double in size.

Bake at 400 about 15 minutes or until light brown. Glaze.

Glaze

Hot water

Melted Butter

Powdered sugar

Vanilla

Mix all ingredients together. Should be the consistency of thing gravy.

Glaze cinnamon rolls while they are warm and enjoy.

I triple this recipe when I make these for my family. We have a large family.

 

 

Cranberry Congealed Salad

This is a favorite for my family at Thanksgiving.

cranberry Congealed Salad

 

 

 

 

 

This salad is great prepared two or three days before Thanksgiving,

2 (3 ounce) pkg. of Strawberry jello

1 1/2 cups boiling water

1 (10 ounce) pkg. frozen sliced strawberries, partially thrawed

1 (15 ounce) can crushed pineapple, partially drained

1 (16 ounce) can whole berry cranberry sauce

1 cup chopped pecans

Dissolve jello in boiling water and let cool. Add strawberries, pineapple,

cranberry sauce and pecans. Spray mold with Pam. Put into mold

Cover and chill until firm. Unmold and serve.

Surviving the Blame Game by Lynn Autry

depressed mom

 

 

 

As a mom, I have been blamed for almost anything. A toy was missing, “Mom, you put it somewhere” or “Mom, you threw it away.” Moms are supposed to know where everything is, was and will be. “Mom, where are my blue shorts?” Clothes are to be ready when and if they want to wear them. Have you heard this one? “Mom, it’s  your fault, there is nothing I can eat. ”  Food is to be what they want when they want it.

For adult children to stop the blame game, they have to take ownership of their life and mistakes even through difficult circumstances with family. When we make our life our own, we move pass blaming when a parent does not act the way we expect them to. We are all individuals. We all think differently. We face choices each day of personal responsibility. We have to move pass what we feel like should have been and what is now.

As a parent, I tried to do all the right things. I was far from perfect but I tried as you did. We do not go into parenting experienced. We learn as we go. We can feel like the “bad parent” through comments made and actions taken. Parents can become beaten down and guilt-ridden. We say to our self, “If I had not done this” or “If I had done this then they wouldn’t blame me and we could move on in the relationship.”  We can try to be the best parent but come up against difficult odds in making a decision that may not go well. We have to stop taking all the blame if we are going to stop feeling guilty and ashamed. These feeling do not help you are me. Whose fault it is, is not the first question. The question we do need to answer is what should or could we have done differently.

Children judge and so do we. We need to remember, they have not walked in our shoes. We must remember our children are responsible for their actions. When we are judged and found guilty, it is easy to say, “It’s all my fault, I should have taught him better” or “If I was a better parent she wouldn’t act this way.” Feeling guilty doesn’t help you or solve your relationship problems. When we take on all the blame, we leave none for the other person.  There are times when what should have happened has to stopped being played in our head and just realize what it is right now.  At points, it is just time for one or both to apologize and move the relationship forward. Apologies or peace offering can move the relationship forward.

How do we survive the blame game? We center on the positive and what is really true. It is easy to center on the negative and drown in a pity party. The hard part comes when we make our self remember who we are. You are first a woman that God has created. We make mistakes but God doesn’t. Everything he creates is beautiful and so are you. We can take on the blame and just feel like there is nothing pretty about us. God gives us beauty for ashes. Remember also what God has done for you. There is a song that says Count Your Many Blessings. When we center on the negative, we don’t look at the blessings that God gives us each day. We take for granted the sun, home, church, health and more. God has blessed us. We are His chosen. I like being chosen don’t you. When you don’t feel like an adult child wants you, just remember God has adopted you as His child through Jesus Christ. I love that even when a child may not forgive us, God forgives us and moves on with our relationship with Him.

I have certainly been a mom that has dealt with the blame game. There were days that I had to remember who I was and look at what God has given me to survive in a relationship. The way we survive is to force ourselves to look up and not down. We have to move forward and outward and not backward and inward. Join me in surviving and thriving instead of drowning in this precious life God has given you and me.